i can't take care of my child anymore

Sometimes he gets violent. You're going to need help. Last night my brother had a go at me for shouting at her & something inside me just snapped. I had one of those today where I hit the wall with my 2 boys. im sorry sheldon, but you vcannot change the person i have become since you were away, as much as youd like to turn back time, it just cant be that way any longer. If you die or can't take care of your children, what happens to them depends on what plans you've made for them. But keep this in mind. Find a release and strength in a spiritual life, too, Weary Wife. I don’t know. Some days I frankly don’t want to do it. This is a great post, and something I really needed! For parents, letting go of care taking duties may be difficult. This really did a number on me mentally since I had to watch my mom deteriorate each day until she passed away. If no one cares about then what’s the point to live anymore. She has been the author of ADayinMotherhood.com for over 8 years and blogs because it is cheaper than therapy. She loves to draw but that’s not reading. Between three young kids, the phone, the dog – who by the way has not figured out that barking at a squirrel 50 feet up in a tree is a totally useless activity – and the voices in my head, the noise is completely overwhelming! It’s like they just want attention…, Keep us updated! Continued. My mom got diagnosed with brain cancer when I was 19 and I was her caregiver for a year up until she passed away. Adoption by a Family Member or Friend. very well put. I can't take it anymore, I am so incredibly stressed out: I am a few days away from 34 weeks. Many schools offer after school programming. Anna1212 08/01/2019. I don’t want to play with them, I did not think that I had to, my mom never did, I played with my sisters. Death is the only way out at this point. Hugs n love n peace of mind too all of us!!! The marriage was a massive disappointment but the children have been my life’s most valuable treasures. Needed this bad! You are NOT alone, ever, as most moms are at their wits end! Now it's my turn to live my life and have fun. Run to neverland , where all dreams come... 4/10/2020. I am sure they can bring loads of fun, but they can bring loads of crap and unhappiness too. I can’t take it anymore. Kids or no kids, it is exactly the way it is supposed to be :). Your sadness won’t disappear magically when you wake up in the morning. They may worry that no one else can care for their child as well as they can. Many folks find themselves making such calls these days. I have one 25 and one 14, who I homeschool in addition to working full time. My sister has power of attorney and refuses to even look into a group home for her. Im here now… im sitting @ the table and I’m looking around at my disaster of a house in tears.. Did i mention the dogs are both barking at absolutely nothing like always, my crazy sister that mumbles and talks to herself is here, my brother just showed up and is sitting on the couch talking on his hone in his ridiculouslyloud booming voice (oh and its on speaker phone, y 3 little ones 10,8, & 6 are throwing punches and screaming over the video game chairs.. I’m losing it and frankly I just want to walk out and let them all handle everything on their own.. i want to run away!!! I am constantly surprised at how strong a mom has to be…I don’t know how many times in a week (sometimes in a day…lol) that I think I can’t possibly take anymore and yet I do…cause I have to…I do actually love the boogers very much! I've said a good bit and perhaps too much, but I do know that you need to take care of yourself now and find your own happiness in the little one who has Down's Syndrome. your child safe. September 12, 2011 at 9:04 pm. swear it was gonna say something extreme but nope kept it mellow, Girls, I am sorry to read all this. Being Christian does not make you a better person. My child’s father however is strong. She is slightly challenged more in terms of reading and comprehension. Regular examinations, teeth cleanings, and vaccinations are vital to preventing disease and keeping your pet in good physical health. I have a lot of projects I work on outside, and come in to find her watching some one on YouTube she’s not allowed to watch. Got in fight with a another student ( he is not physical and never before got in trouble for that) , was called in the office several times ! !….but reading this made me not feel crazy. I know people who can't afford their kids due to no fault of their own AND have maxed on credit cards. If you decide when your child is older that you "just don't like her" anymore, what are you going to do? Single mom. You are soooo under estimating your value!!! 5. 515 515. Some days it may feel like he can. It’s a critical moment here and I really don’t know how many more steps I can take. she's going to commit suicide if i make her leave. That’s on you lady and not his lack of belief in God. You have a strong burden to be both parents, in a sense, to the little child. Its kind of scary for me to think of quitting (as much as I desperately want to). I've taken care of her everyday for well over 2 years now & in that time I've also cared for my dad for 9 months with lung cancer, at home, as that was his wish & lost him in August. Your spouse isn't able obviously to be a husband to you or a father to the children. Now all my hopes are gone. If no one cares about then what’s the point to live anymore. Yes, it is a L O T of work to get three kids ready to go on a 5 minutes walk up the street. I know all of my friends have. ((((hugs))))). If I had the day off and the child was sick I would help out. They all three sit, content with the attention they probably were striving for anyway with their bad behavior, and listen quietly for as long as it takes. Can’t afford to take care of my child anymore, Re:Can’t afford to take care of my child anymore. I’ve been crying all day. I’m crying that I feel like a terrible mum coz I don’t want to put up with my 2 year old screaming crying anymore because he wants a biscuit (hes already had one!) But when the time comes that I can no longer help her I know a nursing home will be the best place for her to be. I can't take care of my fish anymore. Wish me luck. I thought this article was about not wanting to be a parent? I just found out we won’t have insurance after this month so things are hard with my meds still let alone without them so I am already worrying about something that for one hasn’t even happened yet and for two something I have absolutely no control over. However, after 5 years I can't suppress my physical and emotional needs anymore. Just know that you are not alone! Who would care if I where dead not like anyone were really my friends they just put up with me. Btw: any suggestions on how to stop my son from cussing so much wld be greatly appreciated.. and any ideas on how to make all 5 of my kids less assholish plz plz plz help ya girl out…. He goes into rages at small things. The Rumor: Children should always care for their aging parents Our relationship with our elders can be complex, and sometimes we still carry the burden of familial resentments long past. If I am going to work and sacrifice time with my child, its not going to be for that place. Two more weeks till school and not surw if Im.going to make it! Because I can get into it – just as anyone can – and things can and will happen during that moment when I am engrossed. Better yet, pour the rich Merlot over the chocolate and enjoy. Or maybe, they laugh when you tell them they are being punished. I take care of my husbands 98 yr old grandmother because no one else cares. I was hoping to be able to throw her a baby shower and at least buy her something for the wedding. If you can’t take much more of your child with special needs … If you googled “I can’t take much more of my child with special needs,” I’m giving you an internet hug. I just can’t say how much I needed to read this. So her lack of exceptionalism is unnerving! So at 3 in the afternoon we have to walk to the length of the house. I know that we all have to struggle sometimes. Hi friends! By now, she is far too big for it. SunCloudJD 08/02/2019. 5. He got the worst day ever. Its your child; you can't do anything. I can't satisfy my needs while existing in this "world" he's created. To expect your child to understand and care about your feelings when he or she disobeys you is a sign that you’re over–personalizing the behavior. What will happen if you die or can't take care of your child? Sometimes I am afraid it may feel empty at some point, but on the other hand: being miserable half the time is not the recipe for a happy life either. All I want is to make my kids happy and help them grow up to be strong minded adults who aren’t weak like me…i just hope I can. Secondly, if you don’t feel you have any friends, find a group online that can help. Not even if we did get a lifetime supply of Aqua Net with coupons. . If you are unable to remember to take care of your pet's basic healthcare needs, then seeking help is important. All I am is what they need me to be and thatisn’t enough. It starts with showing this message to your husband. Days when you scream until your voice cracks. So obviously I want to quit. I had to drop out of college at the time, but was happy to do so to take care of my mom. Exhausted people can find it hard to see a change or way out. You are unable to take your pet to the vet for care. If an emergency happened and I could help I would. The oldest has his own family now and is doing well but they are both strong willed so I’ve been dealing with those wills for 25 years. My 10 year old is defiant, stubborn and angry. That’s tough. I’m sorry you are struggling. You sound just like me! Find more Motherhood Posts at My Recent Writings, Like A Day in Motherhood on Facebook and Subscribe to A Day in Motherhood. If you are unable to remember to take care of your pet's basic healthcare needs, then seeking help is important. Lacking confidence in your ability is normal, I certainly feel inadequate at times. At least, I admit with my hand held high, I can’t! I'm a single parent and my children still see their father who I split up with about 1 year ago. Parenting a defiant child is hard. Lost a lot of sympathy for OP when it came out she doesn't have/want credit cards. Like I don’t have any friends, and I can’t talk to my mom about my feelings or she just gets mad. It’s constant, tedious and some days, soul crushing. My husband and child both have OCD and anxiety, and he’s paranoid as well. I will be praying that you find a way to help your son with his issues and, in turn, yourself too :( (((HUGS)). We are all here for you too! My boyfriend hit me with the “it’s your Godly responsibility”. Well I will say after reading some of these comments I feel like a jerk. We are so isolated and I just feel trapped sometimes. Besides, I don’t have to clean anything outside and that makes me happy! Thanks! I’m an Atheist and I took care of my parents since I was in 6th grade. It's Genetic Living Well. A little over 2 years ago I adopted my dog from the pound here in town. They are great young men. Now what? Many people struggle, especially with an unpredictable child. I didn’t sign up for this. Other parents may worry that they’ll be less able to provide adequate care as they age and develop disabilities of their own. The Court will probably hold a hearing and discharge you and if the mother or father doesn't step up to the plate, the child may end up in foster care. If the care and worry of your parent has started to take its toll on your and your family's life, it's okay to seek help. I have a nine yr old and I love her and being a mother, but I hate being a mom when it’s not going well I’ve learned. I'm also moving to an apartment and the won't allow ANY pets. I wish I was stronger. It got to me and I felt bad for being short with my oldest, but I have to give myself a break and start again fresh tomorrow. 4. (((HUGS))). I believe that it is not fair to have children when you can not support them. He is the biggest nuisance EVER. I wish I was a better mother and had a bigger support/social circle. I can't do it anymore I have an 8 year old and a 3 year old, I am 24 years old and I just can't cope anymore. i had to say Goodbye to my friends without even hugging them it was hard. Op, what exactly is it that you are in need of? Single motherhood is tough, I know… but it does get easier as they age! I look at my child and think about how I longed for my parents to love me for who I am. If you can’t take much more of your child with special needs … If you googled “I can’t take much more of my child with special needs,” I’m giving you an internet hug. If I am going to work and sacrifice time with my child, its not going to … Financial Samurai says. I can’t afford summer camp and my husband doesn’t trust babysitters. Then I’m ready to put on my “big girl pants” on. I worry too much about How others feel. Its just too much. LockHorns Mon 04-Mar-19 19:07:07. I Think I Need to Quit. I don’t think I can clean or fix another meal or go to the grocery store or wash dishes or sweep up dog hair one more single time. Funny how family gatherings can sometimes make us feel even worse about our ability! Its 1 of me and 5 of them. My cat doesn’t like my new boyfriend. It can also be useful to focus on how you can take care. If you can’t afford it, call your local church or google free/low-cost therapy options in your area. Perhaps you're no longer able to care for him due to circumstances out of your control. Not because the kids have really changed. I thought I would love parenting and be a good parent. Until I read it all. I don’t hate my kids, I hate parenting, it’s not just sometimes it’s in general. This was not what I thought it would be. You are definitely NOT alone!! i don't know what to do. However, if you are really, really struggling, there is no harm in hiring a mommy’s helper or asking friends for help. I am so so glad that you found it! We plan on changing the lives of a few of them through adoption. What do you do when you don’t want to parent anymore? I remember the moderator (Jeff?) I have a 3 year old red eared slider. I don’t want to parent at all. 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